Friday, 05 October 2007

  • Would you sign a pre-nup before getting married? Why or why not?

    If there was a significant disparity between the financial status of my partner and I, then I would sign a prenuptial agreement.  The reality is that the divorce and infidelity rate in this country is fairly high and while two people may be madly in love with each other when they are getting married, several years down the road the situation may sadly be different.  I think respecting other peoples financial interests and protecting your own should not be something that should be taken as offensive but rather a practicality of life.

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Comments (6)

  • AvenueToTheReal
    I'm just never gonna get married. That way, I won't have to worry about any of that.

    Well, thanks for your comment!

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  • chyihui
    respecting other people's financial interests and protecting your own should not be something that should be taken as offensive but rather a practicality of life.

    nicely put.

    Thanks for the comment, much appreciated.

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  • nighttimesunshine

    i guess you're right, in a way.

    if i were in a situation like that, i suppose i might. this is all hypothetical; i don't say things and expect them to hold true no matter what.
  • kanakatana
    Ah, I'm going to have to disagree with you on that.

    When did material matters become more important than emotional matters?

    Yes, infidelity and divorce rates in the US are appallingly high, but accepting this isn't going to help solve the issue. If everyone believed, that one must have faith in their own relationships, slowly but surely, that average is going to drop.

    Thanks for leaving a footprint.
  • resnovae
    You know what's kind of interesting is, the divorce rate has actually been dropping for quite some time. On the other hand, people are also waiting longer to get married, and are more likely to never marry. My theory is, the decrease in social pressure to marry has given people the green light to take the marriages they do enter more seriously. I think society is better off with fewer, but happier, marriages than it is with more, but crappier, marriages... but I also believe that people can create and define a family in many ways that are fundamentally unhealthy within the bonds of matrimony, and also that there are many perfectly healthy and natural ways to form a family outside them. I don't really advocate any one solution over any other... I just believe that all life choices should be made with care, and due diligence. Given the legal ramifications of signing into a marriage agreement- regardless of whether or not it is ever terminated by either party- without at least as much thought as a mortgage (which really is "only money") seemsfoolish to me. I'd never say that my answer would be right for everyone... but, it bothers me that so many people dismiss it out of hand as unromantic/greedy/fatalistic.My husband and I bring almost identical (and negligible assets to our marriage now, and our marriage really isn't about the money- there have been advantages and disadvantages to the arraingement since we married, just as there were when wee were only dating. But in the great grand scheme of things, I believe that our relationship has benefited from our willingness to make such a serious, legally binding committment (ie: marriage) to each other- but I don't think our relationship or our marriage has suffered from going into it with our eyes wide open, instead of squeezed shut and hoping for the best.
  • daziehaze

    sure, i get wat ur sayin bout pre-nups, and the high rates of divorce... but i think marriage is more than that... it's a huge commttment and is saying yes to getting through the hard times, and even pushing thru the times when it doesn't FEEL like you're in love.

    but, there again, we all have different ideas of what marraige really means.

    just the same as those who cohabitate (live together) before marraige have a higher rate of divorce (i wonder if it's the try-before-you-buy mentality and therefore not actually seeing marriage as life-long commitment)... i'd be interested to see wat the stats of pre-nups and divorce rates are??

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